Getting a Divorce?
Getting a divorce or want a divorce?
We all hate to go through it but unfortunately sometimes it happens. The number of divorces are up as of late. It's no wonder with the economy the way it is that it's not higher. Admit it or not, people do fight over money and half of the time they don't even realize that's what’s fueling their anger and causing the problems. Then there’s the kids, yep they have to go through the divorce too. So what do you do to make it as smooth as possible for them?
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We all hate to go through it but unfortunately sometimes it happens. The number of divorces are up as of late. It's no wonder with the economy the way it is that it's not higher. Admit it or not, people do fight over money and half of the time they don't even realize that's what’s fueling their anger and causing the problems. Then there’s the kids, yep they have to go through the divorce too. So what do you do to make it as smooth as possible for them?
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How do you make divorce smooth for the kids?
How do you make divorce smooth for the kids?
I'm not going to lie about this; it's not going to be easy. It will take both parties being MATURE, open minded, and co-operating even if it is an ugly divorce. If you really care for your kids not to see the ugly side and will do what it takes to protect them, then here are three simple things to consider. Do they really need to see mommy and daddy fighting?
1st
It's very typical for two individuals to have different parenting styles, so since they will most likely be going back and forth both parties need to be in sync in parenting methods. You’re going to have to sit and come up with a parenting plan that both parties can adhere to. If Mom says one thing and Dad contradicts, then the kids are confused and stuck in the middle.
Take some time and work it out, this really helps.
2nd
NEVER NEVER NEVER talk bad about the other party in front of the kids or to them. This creates a one sided view of the other parent that the child may believe. (Depending on age) It's unfair and does more damage to the child then the other party. Let the kids see their parents with their own eyes and have their own relationship with them. Don't make it ugly for them for the wrong reasons.
I'm not going to lie about this; it's not going to be easy. It will take both parties being MATURE, open minded, and co-operating even if it is an ugly divorce. If you really care for your kids not to see the ugly side and will do what it takes to protect them, then here are three simple things to consider. Do they really need to see mommy and daddy fighting?
1st
It's very typical for two individuals to have different parenting styles, so since they will most likely be going back and forth both parties need to be in sync in parenting methods. You’re going to have to sit and come up with a parenting plan that both parties can adhere to. If Mom says one thing and Dad contradicts, then the kids are confused and stuck in the middle.
Take some time and work it out, this really helps.
2nd
NEVER NEVER NEVER talk bad about the other party in front of the kids or to them. This creates a one sided view of the other parent that the child may believe. (Depending on age) It's unfair and does more damage to the child then the other party. Let the kids see their parents with their own eyes and have their own relationship with them. Don't make it ugly for them for the wrong reasons.
How do you make divorce smooth for the kids?
And 3rd
Do NOT allow yourself to fight or argue aloud in person or on the phone. Why because it carries over to the kids later and you won't even realize it. This is the hardest thing to do when you may be angry at the other party for whatever reason. Stay composed and treat each other with absolute respect. DO NOT allow yourself or the other party to verbally abuse on the phone or in person. EVER! Before a conversation gets heated and you can usually sense it, tell the other party "I will not yell or scream or argue with you on the phone"This method may sound silly but I have used it personally and it made one HECK of a difference! Whether you care if that person lives or not, use this method and treat them with absolute respect and after a while you will realize that they will treat you back the same way and it makes things a lot smoother for the kids.Good Luck!
Do NOT allow yourself to fight or argue aloud in person or on the phone. Why because it carries over to the kids later and you won't even realize it. This is the hardest thing to do when you may be angry at the other party for whatever reason. Stay composed and treat each other with absolute respect. DO NOT allow yourself or the other party to verbally abuse on the phone or in person. EVER! Before a conversation gets heated and you can usually sense it, tell the other party "I will not yell or scream or argue with you on the phone"This method may sound silly but I have used it personally and it made one HECK of a difference! Whether you care if that person lives or not, use this method and treat them with absolute respect and after a while you will realize that they will treat you back the same way and it makes things a lot smoother for the kids.Good Luck!
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